How to leave a godly marriage legacy is the revelation Hubby and I received when our marriage hit a rough patch last year. In that valley hour, God knocked some sense into us reminding us why our marriage is bigger than us. I thank God for helping us go back to why we got married because when the going gets tough in marriage, it takes more than “being in love” to see any marriage through.
Timothy Keller in his book The Meaning of Marriage states: “Most people, when they are looking for a spouse, are looking for a finished statue when they should be looking for a wonderful block of marble. Not so that you can create the kind of person you want, but rather because you see what kind of person Jesus is making…. When looking for a marriage partner, each must be able to look inside the other and see what God is doing and be excited about being part of the process of liberating the emerging ‘new you.’”
How to leave a godly marriage legacy was my aha moment thinking back when we first met. We realized years into our marriage (we will be celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary) that marriage was easier than people said it would be but was way harder than we thought. Hubby and I are both stubborn individuals but after fourteen years, we know now to redirect our stubbornness toward heaven which can lead to a breakthrough rather than toward our spouse which can lead to a break up.
Fifteen years ago we met on Valentine 2003, got engaged on August 20, 2003 and got married on October 16, 2004. We lived in three states, are parents to three amazing girls and experienced some wonderful times and not so wonderful times. We are stubborn in our pursuit of two becoming one because God in His love, grace and mercy is the fuel that helps stay the course.
How to leave a godly marriage legacy was the revelation that the marriage battlefield takes two warriors to fight not just for our offspring but also for the couples we are humbled to inspire along the way. There is so much more at stake than the two of us and we don’t take the task so lightly picking up our armor, shield and sword everyday in our pursuit of two becoming one.
We are a part of a heavenly battle that requires we train the next generation and the ones God assigns us to our team to take their rightful position in the battlefield. Being aware of what is at stake is the ultimate why that drives us to fight till death do us part. I understand sadly that some marriages experience abuse or infidelity and I encourage those couples to seek the help they need because those issues require a trusted counselor or your local church to work through them.
How to leave a godly marriage legacy takes:
- Fulfilling your marriage covenant for better or worse.
- Praying daily together.
- Dating your spouse.
- Being each other #1 cheerleader.
- Resolving conflicts as soon as they arise.
- Training your children like arrows in the hand of two warriors on the marriage battlefield firmly confident that the battle has already been won.
How to leave a godly marriage legacy is at the heart of my WHY thanking God that when the going gets tough in our marriage, for us to get tougher as a team with God at the center realizing that a cord of three strands is not easily broken.
WELLthy Life NODte:”When the going gets tough, get tougher!” -Nathalie O’Donald
What a beautiful post! Just like anything else in life, marriage requires work in order for it to continue to thrive. Wishing you and your husband many more blessed years together.